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Disappointment–Does a Wife Get Anything Out of It?

With depth, style, and humor, consultants Barbara Allen, Anne Fielding, and Meryl Nietsch-Cooperman, of the teaching trio There Are Wives, conduct this class.  It is based on the following statement by Eli Siegel, founder of Aesthetic Realism: “The purpose of marriage is to like the world.  The reason happiness in marriage is such a rare item is that people have tried to love in a way that would mean less of a like for the world—in fact, a contempt for it.”

There’s going to be lively, down-to-earth discussion of these sentences from Mr. Siegel’s lecture Mind and Disappointment:

“Disappointment can be defined as a state in which we feel that what we were looking for was not had….The first thing necessary to avoid disappointment is to ask if we’re not going after it….Many people don’t want to be pleased by anything; on the one hand, they complain that they are disappointed, and on the other, to be disappointed is their triumph. We can arrange our disappointment. We can insist on it.

“Since the source of all hope is the outside world, if we are going to get what we hope for, it is going to be from reality. But if we don’t like what we want things from, that much we spoil our chances for getting them and for enjoying them.”











When: Sat., Apr. 8, 2017 at 11:00 am - 12:30 pm
Where: Aesthetic Realism Foundation
141 Greene St.
212-777-4490
Price: $10
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With depth, style, and humor, consultants Barbara Allen, Anne Fielding, and Meryl Nietsch-Cooperman, of the teaching trio There Are Wives, conduct this class.  It is based on the following statement by Eli Siegel, founder of Aesthetic Realism: “The purpose of marriage is to like the world.  The reason happiness in marriage is such a rare item is that people have tried to love in a way that would mean less of a like for the world—in fact, a contempt for it.”

There’s going to be lively, down-to-earth discussion of these sentences from Mr. Siegel’s lecture Mind and Disappointment:

“Disappointment can be defined as a state in which we feel that what we were looking for was not had….The first thing necessary to avoid disappointment is to ask if we’re not going after it….Many people don’t want to be pleased by anything; on the one hand, they complain that they are disappointed, and on the other, to be disappointed is their triumph. We can arrange our disappointment. We can insist on it.

“Since the source of all hope is the outside world, if we are going to get what we hope for, it is going to be from reality. But if we don’t like what we want things from, that much we spoil our chances for getting them and for enjoying them.”

Buy tickets/get more info now