The Trouble About Closeness & Remoteness in Marriage & the Aesthetic Answer
Where: Aesthetic Realism Foundation
141 Greene St.
212-777-4490 Price: $10
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Even as wives and husbands do things together and worry about each other, and even as there is physical closeness, many a wife has had the pained feeling that there is a remoteness between herself and her husband. Meanwhile, many a husband feels that his wife doesn’t want him to know what’s within her mind, and that she isn’t interested in what’s within his. Aesthetic Realism asks: Is there something a woman needs to see about a desire in her to keep herself hidden and apart—a desire that’s an aspect of contempt?
At this upcoming Understanding Marriage workshop, these deep and thrilling sentences from Eli Siegel’s Preface to his essay “The Ordinary Doom” will be taken up:
“The large inward catastrophe of today is: We let ourselves be pleased by and do what we can to please a person we still want to hide from, we still do not fully respect. The one way we can fully respect a person is to feel that that person deserves wholly to know us and it would be good for us to know that person.
To know a person is to know the universe become throbbingly specific. It is always the universe on two feet, with two eyes, and an articulate mouth. It is the universe we want to skip.”
What a beautiful, honest—and necessary—way of seeing a person! Each woman will be learning that her deepest desire is to like the world, and that this deepest desire includes wanting to comprehend the depths of her husband and wanting to be known by him. She’ll learn too that to hope to know with kind and eager interest who her husband is, is the means to love and romance the likes of which she hasn’t experienced before!Buy tickets/get more info now